The Fighting of Romance

Post 3 of 4 in our Realities & Fiction of Romance Series

couple-argueGenerally, my kids get along pretty well. Despite their three year age gap they seem to be one of each other’s preferred companions. However, just as all siblings, they also know how to push each other’s buttons and can get screaming mad at one another as well. They know what to say to hurt each other; they know the sensitive spot, and the vulnerable place.

Over the years I’ve stressed to both of them how important it is to protect the trust and bond they have. Making sure not to take public things that are private to the other, things they have the privilege to know precisely because of that trust. No getting mad at one other and then telling those private things to people at school. No revealing the vulnerable places of the other in the ‘heat of the moment.’ I try to instill in them the seriousness of protecting their relationship because if they lose their trust for each other they may forever lose the beautiful bond they have.

The Fiction of Romance

Post 1 of 4 in Realities & Fiction of Romance Series

Last fall we switched our TV provider and with it came access to a new channel—which has sucked more hours from my life than I want to admit. Between Thanksgiving and New Year’s many a night was spent with this channel. I am a sucker for Christmas romance movies and this channel had them available in droves throughout the season. Actually this channel has mastered the feel-good, lightweight, family-friendly, romance movie and, as cheesy as they can be, I still keep going back for more!

Bumps in the Road

Getting past relational hurdles

Last weekend I had the privilege of helping my in-laws celebrate 50 years of marriage! This couple represents the bedrock of society. Strong and steady, they personify 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 which says, “…make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: you should mind your own business and work with your hands…so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders…”

I came into their life 17 years ago and while I appreciate them a great deal now, the road to get here was not without its bumps. Bumps are a part of any healthy relationship though and it’s through the work that it takes to smooth out bumps that understanding and grace are borne.

What made things complicated for me is something I think causes a great deal of the tension we experience when families combine—be it becoming an ‘in-law’ or becoming a blended (step) family.

That thing?….Differences…