Know a SMARTER Method

New Perspective on Resolutions Series

While I believe picking One Word is the first way you should look at goal setting, there are still very concrete things that need to be accomplished and having a strategy for those is necessary as well. Notice I said ‘very concrete goals.’ We run into trouble because we try to apply these steps to vague desires or guilty ‘shoulds’ instead of concrete tasks.

At the beginning of this series we talked about how important it is to know the ‘why’ of goal setting. The overarching reason for why we set goals is to help us grow. It is just as important that we understand our personal ‘why’ for each concrete goal we make. There’s a big difference between ‘losing weight’ because you want to feel healthy and be able to take part in the physical activities you enjoy and ‘losing weight’ because your mother-in-law makes comments or you think your life will be happier then. The first reason will motivate—the second deflate.

My suggestion is to keep the number of these goals between 4 and 7.  Anymore and the chances increase that you will do more beating yourself up for failure than feeling victorious about success.

Know Your Word

New Perspective on Resolutions Series

Across the street from me, I am told, there used to be an orchard. Now a beautiful log home sits surrounded by apple trees of all sorts and varieties. The beauty of the flowers that fill those trees in the spring can hardly be matched! The fruit that follows the flowers is delicious and I am thankful for the neighbors who willing share what their trees have produced.

We are a lot like those apple trees.

Last week I encouraged you to set goals that wouldn’t be empty when you accomplished them. Focusing instead on things that build your character; “Fruits of the Spirit” as they are called in Galatians 5. We want to grow fruit, so let’s look at the apple tree.

Know What is Worth Pursuing

New Perspective on Resolutions Series

I started talking last week about New Year’s Resolutions and goal setting, something we all seem to think about a lot at this time of year. I’ve always struggled with accomplishing “goals” or at least in accomplishing the types of goals mentioned most often…food, finances and fitness. In fact I can go back through years of journals to show you all the ‘resolutions’ I made with determination in my pen, that fizzled, deflated and got lost before six months had passed!

Last week I shared with you how important it is to know ‘why’ you are setting a specific goal. We get lost quicker if we don’t have a strong sense of why it’s important to accomplish the goal. I shared with you how often we make the mistake of having the why be about all the ‘shoulds’ screaming in our heads. The shoulds, and the resulting shame that comes from not measuring up to what we perceive we ‘should’ be or do, actually works against the motivation we need to continue towards our goals.

Know Your Why

New Perspective on Resolutions Series

“People lose their way when they lose their why.”

I am a New Year’s resolutions dropout! I have a long track record of failing to accomplish any ‘resolution I have ever made, so I decided to stop making them. A couple of years ago, I discovered a different perspective to take on New Year goal setting that I look forward to sharing with you. Before we get into the new method for goal setting we need to look at two foundations of goal-setting that are critically important to their success. The first is…know your why.

Why are you setting that goal?

As I reflect on my life and reread all my journal entries I can see clearly that there have always been two driving reasons for my goals—

4 Self-Esteem Killers and How to Overcome Them: Conclusion

Post 7 of 7 in our Self-Esteem Killer series

Two months ago I asked our readers what their biggest struggle with self-esteem was. Over the course of these last six weeks I’ve broken down their responses into four categories of self-esteem killers. As we’ve looked at these I hope you have found ideas, perspectives and strategies for how to fight these assassins off.

Ultimately healthy self-esteem grows in depth as you experience life. The reality is that life is hard, unfair, painful, frustrating, and at times, scary. Accepting that as the reality of life and learning how to face it so you can also find the joy, peace, excitement, and love, helps you become a capable adversary to the self-esteem assassins. The more capable you grow at facing reality the stronger the roots of your self-esteem become.