For the last installment on our Realities and Fictions of Romance series I thought it fitting to ask my husband to chime in. A male perspective on this thing called romance could only be helpful in giving us a fuller idea of how romance looks and how it is practiced in a relationship. So without further ado I share with you Andy’s words on the subject:
Romance is an interesting word isn’t it? It just conjures up so many ideas and visions in people’s minds. Very different ideas. I would especially believe that to be true if there was a sociological study done on this (and perhaps there has been, who knows?) regarding different people’s ideas on romance, depending on their gender, age, marital status, years of being married to one partner versus more than one, and the comparisons could go on and on. Romance can simply take so many different forms depending on the lens or perspective through which each individual views it. Oh, how we love the idea of romance! Consider how pop culture pushes and promotes the gushy, butterfly stomach, warm fuzzy romance at every opportunity. Our society really sets itself up for real, deep-rooted disappointment if that is the only version of romance to be considered “real” or “acceptable”.