While I have Netflix-binged on 3 to 4 series over the last couple of years, I really don’t want to feel like catching up on TV is an item on my ‘to do’ list, so I try to avoid getting sucked into any new series. I don’t want to give up so many hours of my life watching someone else’s story instead of living my own.
This all brings me back to the new channel and cheesy romance or romantic-comedy movies. I watch these because in two hours it will all be wrapped up with a happy ending bow and I can move on—no praying necessary! No additional emotional energy spent, and my brain didn’t have to work hard…that’s when I actually feel like I’ve relaxed.
There is a problem with having an overly large diet of romance stories, weather on screen or in a book—they have the side effect of discontentment and unrealistic expectations. Our entire culture feeds us a steady diet of ridiculous relationship expectations. I have spent my life watching, reading and studying relationships—yet even I find myself wistful for things only found in the movies when I have watched a few too many of them.
February is the month of love so I thought it would be an excellent time to look at some of the fictions and realities of romance. There are so many false ideas that swirl around us on a regular basis and unrealistic expectations we’ve let ourselves develop, all of which steal the joy that can be found in our relationships. So during the next couple of weeks we will look at the feelings, the fighting, and the fantasy of romance. My prayer is that you will discover a renewed sense of what real love looks like as we go. I hope you will join me for the journey.
How much of the romantic genre do you spend time in?
How does it impact your expectations and desires?
How have you been disappointed by romance in life?